today's annoyance is a little thing called criticism. and my biggest pet peeve relating to criticism. i bet you think that i'm about to talk about how annoyed i get when people leave mean comments or criticize your writing, and how, instead, they should just not read it.
one of my biggest pet peeves, particularly related to blogging and writing, but really whatever career or hobby you're in, is the inability to handle criticism. true, gently suggested, helpful criticism or nasty, anonymous, not much you can do about it criticism. they're all in the same category of someone wants you to change what you're doing, and you have the choice to accept it or not. unless you never leave your house to interact with people, you're going to get criticized. you should. it helps you grow as a person. and i worry that years of 'everyone gets a participation trophy!' have softened people into thinking that no one should ever get criticized and we should all just get along like the 'she doesn't even go here' girl. well that's not real life.
i happen to be of the 'if you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen' mentality. i apply that to anything one chooses to spend their time doing. acting, opening a restaurant, interior decorating and yes, writing. what is it about blogging/writing that makes people think they're exempt from criticism? criticism makes you a better person and a better blogger. suck. it. up. you put it out there for people to read. you want comments, you want page views, you want followers, and if you didn't, you'd make everything from your blog to your instagram private. if anyone in the world could stumble upon your writing, then the "if you don't like it, you can leave" sentiment doesn't really apply. the world is not sunshine and rainbows. not everyone is going to love you and most of the time, they'll tell you to your face they don't love you. just because you're now behind a computer screen, that means everyone should love you and no one should tell you the things they don't like? you're not 8 years old, and neither are your readers. you put it out there for others to see, then you accept the good with the bad. no, people probably shouldn't stalk you and constantly tell you the horrible things you're doing or leave 'you're fat and ugly' comments. but neither do they need to 'click the little x and not read it.' if the comment is stupid, laugh it off and move on.
i get criticism about this here blog all. the. time. in the form of comments, e-mails, notes on other sites, in real life from my friends. things i should change, things they don't like, stuff they hate hearing about. i have never once complained and i have never once uttered the words 'if you don't like it, leave.' and i haven't passively allowed any of my friends and readers utter them either. (a) if i need to defend myself, i most certainly can and (b) well, i don't need to. it's just a little feedback. some comments have merit, some don't. decide for yourself which is which, thank the person leaving the comment, and either make the change or move on. stop being a 'woe is me' petulant child, rallying your friends to support you in a raging outcry against the 'haters.' it's as obnoxious as it is fruitless.
because every time i see someone ignore all the wonderful comments and instead cry over one solitary bad one i just think, in my best ron weasley voice, "she needs to sort out her priorities." so feel free to leave me your feedback comments any time. i can take it and keep doing what i like to do. if you can't do the same, maybe you're not really enjoying what you're doing in the first place.