people have a love-hate relationship with valentine's day. either way is fine, do with the holiday what you wish (but please dispense with all that 'it's a holiday made up by hallmark' nonsense. it's not. not anymore than christmas is.) but in all reality, i really don't care how you feel about this holiday. the important thing is, people don't have any sort of hate relationship with chocolate and raspberry cupcakes especially when they're packed full of vodka. make them for your husband, make them for your mom, make them for yourself, or pull a stephanie and say you're making them for your boyfriend but actually eat them all yourself. makes no difference to me and it shouldn't to you either, because 12 cupcakes later you'll be drunk and happy.
1 cup sugar
1.5 cups flour
1/2 cup cocoa powder
1 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 teaspoon salt
1 stick unsalted butter
1/2 cup milk
1/2 cup warm water
2 ish tablespoons vodka (plain is fine, so is flavored like three olives chocolate or absolut raspberry)
combine the dry ingredients in a large mixing bowl (first 5). add the butter, egg and milk and beat with an electric mixer for about 1 minute. slowly add the water and vodka and mix another minute or two until smooth. pour into your lined cupcake tin and bake at 350 degrees for around 20 minutes. bowl licking is acceptable, salmonella be damned because vodka kills germs. cool the cakes completely.
raspberry preserves (1/2 cup or less, depends how full you want the cakes)
vodka (again, depends how much filling. anywhere from 2 teaspoons to 2 tablespoons)
cut the cores out of the cupcakes. there's real tools for this but i use the cap off of an ez squeeze cheese bottle. seriously. eat the cores. then just mix preserves and vodka together, but don't let it get to liquid-y or it will leak out of the cupcake cores. then fill your cakes!
2 sticks room temperature unsalted butter
2 cups powdered sugar
2 tablespoons vodka
3 tablespoons raspberry puree
puree the raspberry preserves you have left over from the filling. this means beat them in a blender and then use a sifter of some sort to strain out the seeds and chunky pieces. seeds = harder to spread frosting. beat the butter for 3 minutes with an electric mixer. add powdered sugar and beat on low until it's all mixed. add the vodka and raspberry puree and beat until it's light and fluffy.