The Last Apartment Hunt

July 23, 2014

it seems strange, every time i think about it.  i've been moving just about every year since just before i turned 19.  that's a decade of moving.  i believe there was 1 apartment i stayed in for 3 years but otherwise, i keep changing.  so 9 moves.  a dorm room, the sorority house, 2 apartments in college, a small apartment during my first year of law school, a larger apartment for the next 3 years, an apartment right on the lake the second year out of school, the one bedroom in the same building i'm in now but 6 floors up, and my current place.  and dang, if i count the summer i came home from school and the time lindsay and i sublet a place while we waited for out new apartment to be ready, that's a lot of moves.

but here it is, the last apartment hunt.  i'd like to note that i hate apartment hunting.  it's kind of a pain in the ass here in chicago.  they don't make it easy on you, by any means, and i've got just over 1 month to find a place and move in.  (but i do love the packing and moving process.  i like decluttering and then unpacking and re-arranging everything in a new space.  it's fun, up until the moment the bill for the movers comes.)  there's just too many things that come with apartment hunting - the price, the area, the size, the building, the security, the available move-in date, the proximity to public transit since i don't have a car, have never had a car, and would prefer to never have one in the future, either.  then you have to make time to see the space and ask about things like utilities and internet and laundry and dog parks and guest parking and security deposits and maintenance requests and my god i'm already tired just talking about it and i haven't even gotten to the actual hiring of movers and reserving of elevator time on moving day.

needless to say, this blog will not be back to regularly scheduled programming until september.

exhausting as it is, i'm trying to actually enjoy this particular apartment hunt because like i said, it's the last one.  the last apartment hunt after 10 years of moves.  why, you ask?  well, in the next few months, john will be buying a house.  and when my lease is up next august, that's where i'll be moving into.  by that point, john and i will have been dating for 2.5 years (and we'll have known each other for over 15, yikes.)  that number is large enough to not make me totally panic but small enough that i'm still fidgety about it.  it's his idea, so i'm still getting used to it, which will probably take me all year long.  hawkeye, however, is ready to move in, like, yesterday.  he hand serves her cheeseburgers and drives her to taco bell with the ac blasting in his truck.  she's easy to please.  i'm slightly more discerning, though the taco bell trips are a plus in my book too.

not that i don't love john and not that i've never lived with a boyfriend before.  i was just smart in that i always had the apartment in my name, at a price point i could still afford on my own.  hashtag momma didn't raise no fool.  but this is not renting an apartment together that has a 1 year lease.  this is moving into a house that he bought.  permanently.  in just one year.


meep!  and yes, i need a full year to prepare, because i'm not good with change.

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41 comments

  1. Moving is one of the worst things ever. Such a pain and so much work! 1 year countdown to the house beings!

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  2. Still getting through our move almost a month later. But so exciting knowing that in just a year you will be moved into a house all nice and cozy with John and Hawkeye. Good luck with the hunt!

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  3. I am so glad that you're being real about not being totally ready for the move in thing. My boyfriend and I are moving into the same house (rented) with a couple other people but keeping separate rooms in about a month and we have only been dating about a year - it's nerve wracking for sure! I'm excited for you though, even if it is a year away. It'll be an adventure! And props to you for not jumping in and not letting your lack of desire to totally jump in make you assume untrue things about your relationship. People get a little judgey when a touch of logic is applied to love sometimes so I commend you for being logical anyway.

    Woah long comment. Clearly it's been awhile since I said hi! :P

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  4. I really hope this last apartment hunt goes smoothly for you! I know it will be rough, and that you have mental adjustments ahead of you, but being able to know that this is the last apartment hunt must be really comforting! :)

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  5. Good luck on the hunt! I've moved pretty much every year since I graduated high school...yikes! I think 2 years is the longest I've stayed at one address. You guys are a very cute couple. I told P I wanted us to live at least a year together before getting engaged...I personally think it is important to see how chores are handled before taking the plunge :)

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  6. Moving is always stressful! I know that moving in with John sounds scary, but from my experience at least, it isn't too bad. I think the most important thing is carving out a space for yourself (Virginia Woolf was right with "A Room of One 's Own"). I've been in "dumb" situations where I didn't have a good "out," like you describe, where everything was in his name and such. But you know what, smart, independent women always figure out how to land on their feet. I highly doubt it will ever come to that for you, but just remember that even when it feels like you're trapping yourself with a living situation, you're smart and you'll figure it out if you have to.
    TL;DR, You'll be fine.

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  7. Moving sucks, especially in Chicago... You have a year to prepare... just let it happen.

    ^ I agree- You're fine. :)

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  8. I moved into my boyfriend's house too... a little over a year ago. To this day, a small percent of me is still uneasy about it. For a while I felt embarrassed to call it "my house" (in the sense that it's my home), when in a way it is so clearly HIS house (in the sense that he chose and paid for it.)

    So, I feel ya. But loving and living with your partner is the bigger deal here, so we better just make peace with it! And contribute hahaha :)

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  9. Moving has to be the thing I hate the most, so buying a place was the perfect thing for me since I knew I would have to move for awhile. You have a year to get used to the idea so that is good. Sometimes change is good!

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  10. I love decluttering and getting rid of things, but I hate moving! Good luck! :)

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  11. I also love unpacking and reorganizing everything, and I also love apartment hunting (even though it can be super stressful). I was concerned about moving in with Kevin, but it's amazing how awesome it has been. Like a sleepover with your best friend every night!

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  12. It's a big step and when we did it I needed a lot of time to prepare, but I've never regretted it.

    hashtag momma didn't raise no fool here either, but in some situations it is what it is. You pick up your part and eventually you get on the deed or mortgage or you sell and both of you buy together.

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  13. Moving really is exhausting! I've moved alot like you, and I believe you when you say you're tired and feel like you're running circles. I hope you get everything situated soon!

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  14. When I close on my house (they are saying about 2 weeks) It will be my 6th move in 5 years. I'm more than ready to finally stay put. I'm excited for you though. Even though I suck at relationships, I like when other people are happy in love.

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  15. Good luck on the apartment search!

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  16. I am like you, moved around pretty much every year after I graduated high school until my husband and I bought a house 2 years ago. Good luck in your last hunt! Make it a great one and decorate it all girly and shit...its your last chance! ;)

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  17. good luck with everything, I'm sure it'll all work out!

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  18. Oh hey yo!!! Did you forget about me, I am a silent reader these days - I know I need to stop!!

    EEkkkk I am sooo excited for you....a year from now!! So so so happy for you!! Hope John's sister has stopped giving you the evil eye! Ha!!

    Oh Princess Hawkeye that girl has everyone wrapped around her precious paws!

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  19. oh man! You are going to have such a great year!!! You have so much to look forward to :)

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  20. J just moved in very all of a sudden and it's been an adjustment but not as scary as I was expecting. I'd lived with an ex before but have lived alone for six years. Luckily, I still get plenty of alone time here and there!

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    1. haha bugs and humidity? Never! Alaska is 1000x more likely. Even though I love you, not enough to move to FL!

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  22. Thats a big step but you are smart to think about it and not rush into anything. I fully expect you to move in with him next year without any huge glitches, but take your time and do it on your terms! :-)

    -AJ
    OccasionallyAJ.com

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  23. Let me tell you living together is a whole different ballgame! We are still driving each other nuts haha.

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  24. Eeek! This is exciting, scary, etc.! Very happy for you, and glad that you have a year to get used to the idea. Maybe helping him decorate the new house will prepare you a bit.

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  25. I lived with my husband before we were married. I think exciting things are in store for you!

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  26. How exciting!!! How far is the house from the city? Best of luck!

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    1. Nope, just north of the city, still in the Chicago city limits!

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  27. I'm totally with you on rental places in my name in a price point I can afford on my own, I can't not do that even if Tyson and I have been together the better part of 13 years. Something might be wrong with me.

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  28. So exciting girl!!!! The girl with no pantry or closet space is over the moon happy for you!

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  29. Good luck on your move and I think next years move will be even more exciting!!!

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  30. I'm the same as you with moving - I've lived in (*counts in head*) 11 times in the last 12 years, and I'm about to move to my 12th place next month! I do like the purging effect that moving can have. Getting rid of stuff is always a blessing.

    Bailey
    aka Bailey

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  31. I have a love hate relationship with moving. Looooove the newness of a new place, hate the process of packing/unpacking. I think 2.5 years is a good time to take the cohabitation plunge. Yes, it's nerwracking, but well worth it

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  32. Good luck girl and congrats! A big change, but a good change =)

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  33. aw yay how exciting!! moving is so lame. I have moved overseas but that doesnt count because you can't take furniture, and into an apartment and then into a house. After we moved into the house I was like 'I am never moving again!!' lol. such a pain!

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  34. How exciting!!!!

    But UGH apartment hunting. Wah. Good luck!

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  35. That is a HUGE change that even I would have to take some time for. Do you at least like the house?

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