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12.09.2014

A Little Whine With My Cheese

Well it's time for a life update, besides the birthday shenanigans I told you about last week.  A little bit of a relatively unwarranted whine, I'll admit up front.  Feel free to check out now.  But for those of you who like life updates, even when (especially when?) they aren't sunshiney ones, this one's for you.  And for my 'real life' friends.  (I'm often still surprised by the number of my 'real life' friends who use this blog as a way to actually keep up with my life.  Must be my lack of Facebook.)


The general basis for my sour mood lately - John's job moved him 2+ hours away, which they announced to him the day before Thanksgiving.  He started December 1.  Basically, that sucks.  He's currently working 10 hour days, 6 days a week so it's just not feasible to add a 4+ hour commute to that each day.  Not to mention he drives a truck.  He ended up renting a house out there with another co-worker who got sent there at the same time, so he stays there during the week and comes back here Saturday after work and then drives back out there Sunday night.  Since he's in a union and still an apprentice, he can't say no to these far off job assignments, at least not for 2.5 more years.
It's not like I can actually whine about it.  It's only two hours away, not the other side of the world.  And I do get to see him every Saturday night, which is not the case in actual long distance relationships.  It's good money.

It's not forever.  The boss told him it will be until March, but the consensus among the workers is that there's just way too much to do to be done by March - it'll be more like May or June.  Remember, we have house plans.  My lease is up at the end of August, so we were planning on having a house all bought and ready to move into by then.  That's still the plan, I just hope he's back and done being sent off because rent and mortgage is stupid.  I feel uneasy about buying a house at this point since he can still be sent far, but it's important to him.  (Not in small part because I told him under no circumstances will I accept a ring before we live together, but that's a whole other post.)  There's also no part of me that's looking forward to house hunting with his brother instead of him, because I know nothing about what makes a good house.
So that's made for an upset last 2 weeks, but what can you do?  Woo-sah and all that.  Although, I do know one girl who's taking it harder than me; his very best friend and mini me: 

32 comments:

  1. URGH - that totally stinks girlie!!! You have the right perspective, but here's hoping it wraps up more quickly! Hugs!!

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  2. Ugh that's awful, I'm so sorry.

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  3. I'm sorry friend! Is he in construction? The fiancé is and I can totally relate to what you're going thru. Stay strong!

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  4. yuck, that stinks. but at least it's not forever and if the money is good, that's always a bonus.

    house hunting: go with your gut. you'll know this is THE ONE when you step into it. as vague and cliche as that sounds, trust me, you'll just now.

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  5. That's awful. He may be close, but you guys had little to no warning before it was sprung on him and no time to prepare or adjust. I'm sorry :(

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  6. BOOO. I'm so sorry, girl. I hate when work things like that happen, because you really just have no control over them.

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  7. I could house hunt with you. I think I did ok with mine. It hasn't turned into a money pit (knock on wood) I have a friend whose husband has to live in a hotel during the week about 3 hours from her. He is a band director and there is just no job openings. He is lucky to be where he is.

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  8. This is so crappy and I'm sorry you're dealing with this right now. It seems like you're maintaining a good spirit and attitude about it, which will help make the time go faster (at least I hope it does). And it's good that you have a long-term plan to focus on.

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  9. Lol Wooh-sah and all that haha. I'll go house hunting with you!!! Oh my gosh I'll starting looking now for you! You know how much I love to do that! Although I should probably focus on ours first right? One housing issue at time Betsy : )

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  10. Ugh, that sucks! I can see my boyfriend and I ending up in this same position and I'm not looking forward to it. Sure it's only a couple of hours, but it's no fun when it gets in the way of life plans. Hopefully it will be closer to March than not!

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  11. That really sucks! You're right it is only 2 hours but that's still 2 hours & it's all relative. My dad does construction which often puts him & my mom in the same boat. Sometimes he'll get projects within driving distance, sometimes he can only come home on the weekend, & then there have, albeit rarely, been those projects where he can't even come home every weekend. I hope the time flies for you 2 & you're back to living a normal life soon.

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  12. that is the worst! It's good that you get to see him though! Hopefully, the project gets finished on time and all your life plans will come together.

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  13. That's sucky news! At least you can still see him every week. I know it doesn't make it better, but it's something. AND it's short term, not forever!

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  14. that sucks. you totally have reason to whine and wine.

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  15. Bummer. Poor Hawkeye is losing his cuddle buddy. Hope it wraps up faster than expected.

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  16. That does suck and I can imagine how frustrating that must be. Sometimes you just gotta' vent it out, let it be said and then it's easier to deal with. Sounds like you still have a good attitude about it all, and knowing that it's not forever is something I remind myself (in various forms) almost daily!

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  17. I'm sorry - that really is crummy. Especially when you two are trying to make plans for the future. But it can be done... if nothing else, look at it as a really good test of your relationship before you get married. If I've learned nothing else from being married 10+ years, its that learning to make decisions based on whats best for both of you, and not just yourself, is way harder than it sounds. And that's exactly what you're doing. Good luck!

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  18. Ugh that definitely warrant a little whine for sure!

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  19. ugh this really does suck. i think its the smaller things like being 2 hours away rather than the bigger things like being on the other side of the world that you can actually complain about. when we were long distance we never really complained lol because we did it to ourselves. i hope the job is over sooner rather than later and everything is sunshine and roses soon!

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  20. That sucks and you have every right to be bummed about it! Hopefully things will go more quickly than his co-workers are predicting.

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  21. That really does suck that he is 2 hours away, but on the bright side...it will all hopefully be worth it in the end! He will have the experience and like you said...it IS good money!

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  22. I say it's always better to whine a little and try to get it out of your system and then maybe the day will look a bit better. Or it won't but you tried right?

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  23. Ooooof... that's a hard one, momma. I'm sorry. I hope that his time there is up when they say it is and it won't continue into the spring. And good on you for not doing the living together without being engaged first. Men have a tendency to get very comfortable, very quickly :)

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  24. Ah that's really unfortunate! Hopefully it's only until March and then you won't have to worry about being apart :) Long distance relationships suck, I know first hand, but everything is gonna be back to normal before you know it!

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  25. It sucks right now but it will be worth it when you guys have an awesome house together! Stay positive and COMMUNICATE as much as possible. That's the key to long distance (from a girl that has been in a very long distance relationship).

    -AJ

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  26. Oh man! I'd be a little whiney about this too. But fingers crossed it's not for long.

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  27. Ugh that truly sucks. Glad he's not toooo far away. You are right though a rent and mortgage sucks but it will happen the way its supposed to happen and when its supposed to happen. :)

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  28. The freaking sucks but at least it's not a real long distance relationship- those blow. You guys can make this work and find a house, It always works out how it's suppose to.

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  29. What SHIT! I can't believe they sprung it on him the day before Thanksgiving either. :/ I'm sorry girl!!! :(
    I'm with you on living together before you get engaged, too. I know people who have done it and people who haven't... I can't honestly say that either "group" has had more success or not, but, I just feel more comfortable PERSONALLY doing it.

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  30. That totally sucks. I'm sorry.

    Also AMEN on not getting engaged before you live together.

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  31. That really stinks! I'm so sorry. :(

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  32. A friend of mine had to buy her house and move her hubby's stuff without him while he was away for work--he had to call her to get his own address when he got back! Brutal.

    Love the idea of the living together test. I'm still hazy on whether I'm the marriage type at all---so for me, the living together test is almost more of a "this is as far as it might go, may as well embrace it" thing. haha

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